Algemeen Archives - Gustaf Pretorius, Clinical Psychologist

Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

Falesia — Tags: Connection-Relation Identity-Personality Struggle-Conflict Falesian.the disquieting awareness that someone’s importance to you and your importance to them may not necessarily match—that your best friend might only think of you as a buddy, that someone you barely know might consider you a mentor, that someone you love unconditionally might have one or two conditions. Portuguese falésia, cliff. A cliff is a dizzying meeting point between high ground and low ground. Pronounced “fuh-lee-zhuh.” Tags: Connection-Relation Identity-Personality Struggle-Conflict CHAPTER: Montage of Attractions CHAPTER:
© John Koenig — The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

Parent Survey Quiestionnaire

Baker Strategy Questionnaire for parents/collaterals.

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During the past six months, how often has the other parent / primary caregiver engaged in the following behaviours?(Required)

	Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Spoke negatively about me to our child - bad-mouthing.
Interrupted, blocked, or ended my phone or video calls with our child.
Scheduled activities that made the child miss my contact time.
Hid, threw away, or refused to deliver cards, gifts, or letters from me.
Told our child I am dangerous, untrustworthy, or mentally unstable.
Made the child feel he/she had to choose between parents.
Said or implied that I do not really love the child.
Shared adult legal or financial details to turn the child against me.
Pressured the child to reject or confront me directly.
Asked the child to obtain information or documents about me - spying.
Instructed the child to keep secrets from me.
Encouraged the child to call a step-parent, eg. Mom or Dad.
Addressed me by my first name when speaking with the child.
Changed or tried to change child surname to exclude mine.
Undermined my household rules or authority in child presence.
Tried to make the child emotionally dependent by over-indulging or favouring.
Withheld important information like school events, medical appointments, etc.

Total Score

Average score

Score Interpretation:

0.0 - 1.0: Low level indicators
1.1 - 2.0: Moderate level indicators
2.1 - 3.0: High level indicators
3.1 - 4.0: Severe level indicators